Late reply, my bad :c
Curious what you mean in the second to last para.
I kinda agree with the last bit, especially with respect to all that "MGTOW" bullshit
which is seems to be dying (fortunately).
Then kinda tying into what both of you get into, I'm totally a feminist, but I'm not one of those stupid tumblrina "women>men" fools who "drinks male tears" or whatever the shit as much as I'm sure that [clearly mysoginistic] MGTOW movement is a bad representative of "genuine MRA issues" (when they're not taking giant shits on Anita Sarkeesian ---- again, and actually try to fight for men's quality of life....like the good feminists are)... but you know, the Internet has trouble with this, there's no shades of grey and everything comes up black and white. Then you kinda see how stupid it is that they all can't get along and it leads to a whole bunch of dumb shit and spilt ink on message forums 'round the globe and the added irony when they both don't see how both can be very sensitive to whatever issue but still love throwing the word "overreacting" at each other without the smallest sense of introspection.
That guy was contradicting himself a teeny bit by claiming "Zeta males" aim to break out of the hierarchy but then he puts them (as an ideal) at the top of the hierarchy.
Also he sounds like he thinks women in general consciously manipulate men, sure maybe some but only a minority, though a case could be made for unconscious manipulation because of cultural/societal standards.
I agree with Skeptic
(he's Canadian too!) on MGTOW: they raise pretty sound/valid/not-sexist points, and some others call themselves MGTOW but don't really get it, and happen to be actually sexist.
My biggest problems with feminism are (among feminists I've talked to about this stuff) ----
"rape culture!"- fear mongering, desensitizing, trivializing, IMO it's lessened the impact of the word rape.
double standards and female privilege- I'm probably echoing your statement about "the good feminists" to try to help men, but all the focus seems to be on infantilizing women and portraying them as constant victims, also conveniently ignoring female privileges and double standards that in some cases hurt men and women
"feminism is about equality. you don't want to be against equality do you?"- the with us or against us attitude
In fact, it could be argued that (in terms of gender, race is another story) we have so many double standards that both sides are equal in a really fucked up way.