just started the game and i now think its very over rated. the amount of times ive died so far is just unacceptable to me. first it was the bandits on the way to the witch. then i got to grand soren and switched to mystic knight then went in some basement with a tentacle boss and had to die about 10 times before i realized you cant win and are supppsed to run away. and even that was a chore since i had to be a dick to my pawns and frequently hit select to restore my stamina.
The amount of times you die is directly proportional to your skill at the game, much like in Dark Souls. If you don't like dying, then you need to ask yourself WHY you are dying all the time and address it appropriately. As for the tentacle boss, your pawns tell you to flee and are even scripted to start running up the stairs out of the room. If you decide to hang around and fight, ignoring the advice given, then the problem is you, not the game.
There are definite problems with Dragon's Dogma (the menu system is worse than Mass Effect 1, especially the unsearchable, unfiltered, unsortable menu for item forgeries, good god), but what you've said so far is all your doing.
a lot of times i was dying because i was being overly aggressive. especially versus the swarms of bandits where they can come at you from a blind spot. i didnt pick strider because i wanted to be strictly melee and felt id be gimping myself by not using the bow. i chose mystic knight thinking it would give me a reason to want to block. also my pawns made no attempt to run away until i did. lastly early on i was overly dependant on the default pawn for healing because i hate going into a menu everytime i want to heal.