First up, don't take it offensively, but most of the stuff listed here helps determine the fact that you aren't an old school gamer, you just like old meat and potatos rpgs. Nothing super flashy, but solid and substantial. Based on the stuff you mentioned on your list you like and don't like, it's pretty easy to make this observation. Also, seeing as you like some action themed rpgs, yeah old school is out the window. Again, don't take it offensively,as being an oldschool gamer actually makes suggesting games harder because it means your brain can't think outside of pressing a button to move dialogue ahead. You seem to enjoy a number of rpgs, so suggesting games isn't that rough. Also, don't let easy games through you off, as difficulty can spike in many a good rpg, some of which are beyond simple to start with. One last thing before recommendations, look into buying a ps3 in the future. Digital downloads for some old ps1 rpgs is gonna be a lot simpler than trying to find a used copy of say, suikoden 1 and 2, plus ps3 does have a decent selection of other titles as well. K, onto the suggestions.
Wild Arms: Psx title, you own the sequel, should try the first. Good game by any standards, though the story can drift a bit. Great traditional gameplay, though I played the remake, alter code F on ps2 myself which has some ups and some downs compared to the original. Either will suffice though. Hell on that recommendation, I'd aim for the entire wild arms series. After 3, they switch to a newer hexagonal style battle field which allows for more tactical placement and strategy, and seeing as how you liked ffta2, this may appeal to you.
Final Fantasy Tactics and Tactics Ogre: Out-fucking-Standing games, FFT being my personal favorite game ever. These 2 vs ffta2 are like comparing lord of the rings to the cat in the hat. Deep, tragic, and impressive vs...a cat in a hat. In terms of story, tactics ogre is the better game, but fft has a certain flare that I preferred, probably the simpler class advancement and progression. Both are easily available for psp and via ps3 through digital download to psp in case your local retailer forgot to stop being a douche and lower the price.
Breath of Fire 3 and 4: Psx titles again, though available on psp as well if you prefer the portability. Though 3 is arguably better, both games are pretty awesome traditional rpgs. Great stories, simple gameplay mechanics, nothing mind numbing to stress you out during a playthrough. These 2 are games for people who just want to play their rpg, not spend 45 minutes a dungeon asking which fucking way do I go now?.
Smt stuffs: a few platforms actually, this is stuff like persona series, nocturne, digital devil saga, devil summoner, and I think something else I missed. I personally don't like smt games, because they made them difficult due to overly complicated stat weakneses, status effects that worked really well on you but never your opponent, and in the case of persona 3 a team of a.i. controlled asshats. Digital Devil Saga is probably the least threatening of the group, and doesn't involve pointing a gun at your head at any point either. However, if mindnumbing difficulty from handicapping you as a player is what you like...i won't stop you.
Star Ocean series: I know at some point you mentioned you didn't like the battle system in the last hope, which astounds me considering you liked tales of symphonia's battle system, which is basically the same on a 2d scale with 3d running. I'd try these games again if I were you, only give it some time. One of the perks of star ocea is as you progress, battles become far more intricate, and battle options really open up. If you still can't gey behind the last hope, try 1 and 2 out instead, though 1 is only available through psp if your in canada and the u.s. It should remind you of older tales games if you ever played those. Star ocean 2 is available on ps1 too, though good luck finding it.
My last suggestion if you still think you're super oldschool and just can't get past it is get an snes. Go play earthbound, super mario rpg, ffii and ffiii (v and vi if you wanna get technical), lufia 1 and 2( though you should play 2 first, it's a prequel and WAY better), secret of mana, and easily dozens more. Limiting yourself due to dislike of a system is a terrible thing btw. All the systems suck, as nintendo sony and ms are all a bunch of money grubbing assholes who care more about sales numbers than making customers happy. Course, people suck so you can't blame them too much, but yeah...fuck em all own everything and play whatever you want, no limitations.