Vagrant Story pauses when you attack and IIRC your stats determine if blows actually land. It's straight-up RPG.
Anyway, if you feel like it, you could get a Dreamcast. Then you have access to shenmue, elemental gimmick gear, shadowman, maken x, D2, and Deep Fighter, although those are all predominately sci-fi.
I can see Rayman 2 fitting the bill here, by the way. PS2 version is probably the best. Also the original PS2 version of Legend of Kay. A lot of 3D platformers have quite the RPG feel without being RPGs.
Rocket Slime on the DS might be another good choice. Interesting twist on a Zelda-style game.