While we are talking about education...I think I'll just inject some manners/testimony stuff in here.
When it comes to children and how to behave in a retail store, I take the role as [manner] educator, as to teach them on what not to do in a store--as well what they can do (some people always forget that part). Usually the actual disciplinary action I take when a child has done wrong is not even with the child, but with the parents who allow their child to act in any way they choose (I feel ya there Lucca on parents too scared to teach there kinds life lessons, as I have to go to the parents to explain to them why their kids can't run in aisle 1 while the parents are in Aisle 13, as well deal with the child right there and then beforeso).
Frequently I become frightened when a child is disciplined by a parent for the wrong reasons when in my pressence. Many a times they discipline the child because the parents become embarrassed or ashamed that their child has done wrong, and rather than use verbal reasoning to tell a child what they did wrong--yes, it's possible to talk your kid and tell them the reason--they either scream or use physical contact on the child to 'explain the wrong'. Yes, because instead of talking with the child, hitting them cause them to see the errors of their way, bringing early enlightenment to the child in the way of manners and good behavior [/sarcasm]
I know this is a fast topic change, but I think it's relevant... VVV
I remember my parents using physical contact to raise me as a child, but they told me what I did wrong and why it was wrong, as well the results if I were to pursue that error. Did I do it anyways? You better believe it! But the fear of knowing the outcome of what was to come help limit the amount of times I would cause that error. Does fear work on raising all children? Probably not, but I know for me and my other siblings, it helped limit the amount of times we purposely made it in our hearts to do a selfish deed (while much of the error I made initially was out ignorance of knowing what to do, the rest--which was a lot--was because I wanted to do it for my own sake).
Did the physical contact they used act as a form to turn internal frustration into external, physical exhaust, or was it out of love because they wanted me to grow up knowing right and wrong and live with fear that if I did what was wrong I would be reproached by it? When I was younger, I believed the former with all my being; now that I'm 24, It became evident in my discussions with my parents now that they truly did love me.
I don't know, maybe I feel that because we aren't instilling both [loving] fear and enforced discipline on a child, they will do as they see fit without concern of negative reactions from both their parents and outside world.
There are plenty of people and/of cultures that disagree wholly with what I think, of course, but that kind of discipline is how I was raised that help me to where I am today. Was it a success? You'll have to tell me, I'm still maturing and learning, 'till death does me apart from this world. ;)
**If something I wrote above doesn't make sense, I'll explain it more in detail--as I understand I am not the most understandable writer (a working process I promise)--so don't blow your casket or grow veins on your neck in preparatory retort. ;)
[EDIT]: Had to get rid of a repeated word.