Fourth evening of no play. After cooking dinner and wrapping up schooling, I have no patience to sperg out on the X button until I get in. I guess I won't be getting any play until the new servers go up. Really likely I'll end up restarting on a new server at this point, especially since I have friends who want to play, and I'm not about to have them wait until character creation opens up on Ultros. Selecting the GAF server was a huge mistake... the overpopulation issue will take even longer to sort itself out there.
As for targeting, he needs to set targeting filters in the options. I set mine to enemies only when I have my weapon unsheathed, and turned auto-sheathe weapon off. Targeting goes back to standard when I manually sheathe my weapon.