Alisha, I'm not gonna shit on your ability to play this game, but I am gonna say that it sounds like your tank needs work. Between overpower and tomahawk, I usually have no issues keeping hate or re-accruing it should a single mob straggle off to fuck with my healer. I'd suggest you recommend to your tank to stop worrying about his miniscule dps output, as it is miniscule compared to lnc and pug, and worry about keeping mobs on him/herself and not eating needless damage so your mage can assist in damage and not spamcure him/her. At least get some spare healing otherwise like second wind and maybe cure off gla, though I have yet to do this myself. Again, not saying your ability to play pug isn't good, just I have a pretty strong pug friend who has been playing since version 1.0 who really knows his class and still doesn't pull hate off me. It's not hard to get hate on a tank is all I'm saying.