Vanity slots are supposedly coming in 2.1, which is fantastic since that opens up the entire game's art assets for widespread use.
I don't think there's an official source for that. As far as I know Yoshi just said he liked the idea but I don't think there was ever any solid announcement when or even if something like that woud come other than players just yanking it out of nowhere.
Vitality takes priority over anything else for stat allocation on paladin.
From what I understand, Warriors should basically dump everything into VIT as well, because people tested out how much STR would help your parries and it turned out it was something stupid like 20 STR for 1% extra damage reduction on parries.
The endgame for this game is pretty poorly tiered. I beat hard mode Ifrit and Garuda, and I was advised to work on my gear and obtain some Darklight before I proceeded to Titan- turns out the only dungeon I should run is Amdapor Keep because everything else is either too difficult from my lack of Darklight or it doesn't give Tomestones of Mythology and I'm getting way less bang for my buck. So basically, I'm only ever running that one dungeon, over and over. Yuck. I'm actually glad my queue times on DPS are so long because it gives me an opportunity to gather and craft so I don't go insane from the monotony.
Even with that though, when I actually get in people are horrible players. I can't believe how many times I've been stuck on the Demon Wall in AK because people can't dodge what is probably the most predictable boss pattern in the whole game.
At least I've been pretty lucky with the drops though. Already replaced almost all my AF with Toxote's- bittersweetly I might add since they decided to go with really plain and ugly models even for level 50 dungeon gear. I'm thinking about buying Bard's Chapeau as my first Mythology item so I can at least have the spiffy hat.
I really hope they fix the lag with the server soon. I'm glad I chose Archer as my class because my latency is so bad that I have to get out of the circle maybe 2 seconds before the thing actually completes casting for it to register properly, which just means the only way I'm dodging anything is by constantly running around like an idiot, or knowing exactly what order and area the boss will attack (Demon Wall). From what I hear about Titan that will not be as effective as it has been for me on basically every boss I've come across because I risk overlapping something targeted at me with someone else's.