HAHA! I am strangely taken with the similarities, we haven't shut down, but we're certainly not working things out.
The drama continues: yesterday drummer insisted a new rule, that summer bass player is still in the band and should have a full vote for making band decisions while in Boston, even when he's not FUCKING DOING ANYTHING FOR US. Fiddle player and I put our foot down and said absolutely not, she practically had a tantrum.
We spent hours shooting a music video he wasn't in, which I then spent tens of hours editing (I'll post it as soon as it's done), and she thinks he should have a say in it. Fuck no, you don't do the work (even if you're not expected to), you don't get a say. As long as we're not smearing his good name or the image of the band in general so that it effects him when he gets back, there is no reason he should have a say. I told her "He's not in the band while he's away" and she almost broke down in tears. Basically, she realizes she has no allies in the band, currently, so insisting that bass player be brought in is a way of making sure she can get her way.