It's easier for a girl to get back in the dating scene, honestly. Sounds sexist, but it's true. :P
She has decided to go back to her ex. Once more I find myself alone. Good times.
This is why I no longer try to have relationships anymore.
Oh BOOO HOOOO (to Ashton more; sorry to hear Dagger). Just wait for it and pursue when it happens. Waiting for one good thing is better than 20 half-assed things (unless you're going into that....for "one night").
Besides, the long-term relationships I've been in have all been abusive and negative for me (with the added fun of being told I "deserved it" after the fact by various other women), so I really am not eager to go into another one just for the opportunity to let another woman abuse and mistreat me because they want to lord their power over me.
By comparison short term stuff have worked out for me much better; no demands, no abuse, nobody telling me I'm a horrible person for leaving an "obviously stressed out girl," just enjoyable, no strings attached fun times.
2 Best Pieces of Dating Advice Ever: Be confident. Play hard to get.
I don't care if everyone's heard it before.
Sure -- all a girl has to do is "put-out", but I hate that excuse that it's easier for them -- it's only easier in that regard for sexual biz-nass
. Women want more than that (most of the time), and the majority of the time it's not as easy to get. Furthermore, while it may be a "womanly fault", men sometimes make it too easy to get with them, they're too eager or whatever. If you don't act confident, then at the very least, play hard to get. If you feel rewarded by a challenge in videogames or tests or whatever, so too do girls love a bit of a trial to make their (i guess) deep feeling and efforts worth it. Worst is the fuckers who flirt with you in a club -- you know what they're thinking, and you can be on that in a New York minute, but when it's that damned transparent, what's the point? Sex is great, and if it is easier for a girl to get, then make it worth it in other ways in how you compose yourself, how you get along, and how you communicate.
You make it sound too often like we're not torn by whether a fella likes us or not (there's highschool in a nut shell right there), and quite often, they don't like you or are completely oblivious to it (or fucking Jacqueline already got there before you...GRR
). You make it sound like we're monsters ready to put our hands in your pocket than in your hand.
Not that I have any REAL know-how about what's going on with you or whats happened, but if I had to guess I think you've has some bad relationships (or the few that really got at you) and extrapolate that into a generality about women; but men can be just as shitty sometimes too. I think you're doing a good thing now by just "little dates". And I agree, short-term works, it did for me for a while, till I realized I used and could use the same lines and moves every damn date and decided to settle down and stop pursuing people I "liked" but one who "drove me nuts" (and, coincidentally, made it a pain in the ass to flirt with -- the sad story of me trying to get with my current boyfriend was me buying movie passes and writing my phone number on it when all else failed... ).
I'd probably like to chat IRL with anyone here that isn't some sort of shut in. Meeting new people is my jam, as long as they're friendly
Doomed from the start, we are. I'm a bitchy shut-in who just complains about being hungry all the time. D: