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« Reply #15 on: May 16, 2011, 12:51:49 AM »

It's been 4 months, man.  Get out while you can.  Good lord, get out.

You put up with her kids.  Nothing in the world is harder than that.  Get... out.

My girlfriend has two kids, but she is cool about everything I do.  The idea of buying them cars doesn't make me sick.  Does the idea of buying cars for someone elses kids, while you can't even buy a fucking videogame for yourself make you feel like a man?

Get out.  Now.

I know that it's been just a few months and maybe I jumped into this relationship too quick.  We technically knew each other since 2008 but only as friends.  I told her how I felt about my hobby for playing video games.  Hell, video games may have saved my life because I could have been out there selling drugs or worse.  
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« Reply #16 on: May 16, 2011, 12:52:27 AM »

games before bros/hoes i would question if you really love her or if that is your penis talking for you.
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« Reply #17 on: May 16, 2011, 12:54:05 AM »

games before bros/hoes i would question if you really love her or if that is your penis talking for you.

We have been together sexually alot but I also care for her and my feelings for her are more than just sex.  I know the difference between love and lust.
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« Reply #18 on: May 16, 2011, 12:57:56 AM »

As others have said, it looks like the relationship is slanted...she's asking you to give up one of your hobbies.  I could understand if you were an addict and that's all you did, but I don't see that as the case.  Maybe she feels a little left out from your hobby.  Have you ever tried playing a game with her?  My boyfriend and I do that a lot (we're both gamers), but sometimes it feels so separate when we're both in opposite rooms gaming away, so we try to do co-op games here and there, and we have a blast at that. I'm thinking if you included her in your hobby, you two are spending time together while doing something you enjoy, and you guys can always compromise on doing one of her hobbies with her.  It looks like you're doing all the giving, and all she is doing is taking.  
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« Reply #19 on: May 16, 2011, 01:02:54 AM »

As others have said, it looks like the relationship is slanted...she's asking you to give up one of your hobbies.  I could understand if you were an addict and that's all you did, but I don't see that as the case.  Maybe she feels a little left out from your hobby.  Have you ever tried playing a game with her?  My boyfriend and I do that a lot (we're both gamers), but sometimes it feels so separate when we're both in opposite rooms gaming away, so we try to do co-op games here and there, and we have a blast at that. I'm thinking if you included her in your hobby, you two are spending time together while doing something you enjoy, and you guys can always compromise on doing one of her hobbies with her.  It looks like you're doing all the giving, and all she is doing is taking.  

We do play video games, she only likes side scrolling games like Sonic the Hedgehog, Donkey Kong Country and she does like Super Mario Kart.  She has even watched me play Alan Wake and she loves watching me play scary games.  I'm just assuming that she wants me to be 100% devoted to her children when I marry her.  I have no problems spending tons of time with both her children and her.  I can see me driving downtown to some abandoned building and playing PSP or DS to get my fix,lol!
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« Reply #20 on: May 16, 2011, 01:07:31 AM »

I'm just assuming that she wants me to be 100% devoted to her children when I marry her.  I have no problems spending tons of time with both her children and her.  I can see me driving downtown to some abandoned building and playing PSP or DS to get my fix,lol!

Yeah but, you shouldn't have to do anything like that. You can be devoted to her kids and still keep up your hobby, maybe she doesn't seem to get that.
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« Reply #21 on: May 16, 2011, 01:08:01 AM »


 I know the difference between love and lust.

A lot of people say this, they truly don't. Love is something that's very hard to understand. It's something that takes a lot of time heartache, and personal experience to fully comprehend. I've told two people I loved them, but i never meant it. Didn't know at the time, but one of them was just because I thought she was my only chance at love. The other one was cause I wanted someone to talk dirty to me over the net. Both times I was never truly in love I just wanted to be loved and/or just was horny.

Ask yourself this are you truly in love, or do you simply want to be in love? There is a major difference, and most "love" in this world is either based entirely on lust or is a construct of the subconscious mind telling us that we are cause the prospect of being in love something we all desire.
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« Reply #22 on: May 16, 2011, 01:19:03 AM »


 I know the difference between love and lust.

A lot of people say this, they truly don't.

I was going to say this myself.  It's not the difference between love and lust that matters, its the difference between sex and damn near anything else. 

You are getting laid, and you are giving everything the benefit of the doubt because of it.  I don't even blame you... but it is happening.  It happens to everyone who likes sex.

You don't really sound unhappy anymore, and she suddenly sounds tolerant of your hobby, so I don't know what to think.  I'd advise against marriage, at least.
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« Reply #23 on: May 16, 2011, 01:41:14 AM »

I have to agree with others who have said it doesn't seem like the right relationship for you to be in. It's natural to have differences and to argue about things, but she sounds a bit over the top and I think you're just going to be unhappy.

Having said that, don't make any decisions based on what us random internet people tell you. :P Especially considering we don't even know her.
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« Reply #24 on: May 16, 2011, 01:45:58 AM »

ask her to go to relationship therapy or something.
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« Reply #25 on: May 16, 2011, 02:05:08 AM »

Jeez, you guys have a lot more issues to work out than just video games.  Personally I would never put up with that kind of crap.
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« Reply #26 on: May 16, 2011, 05:33:00 AM »

She has very strong beliefs on things that from her perception, no compromise

So your opinion doesn't count? You might want to think about how your relationship works. I'm married, my wife doesn't like videogames but that never becomes a problem because she is reasonable enough to give me the space I need for my hoby and I'm reasonable enough to know how much time I can spend on it before it becomes annoying for her. If I don't have anything in particular to do and she's at the hairdresser or doing something else why can't I play some games during that "downtime". Both of you have to adapt, not just you, that is the most basic thing in a relationship.
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« Reply #27 on: May 16, 2011, 05:51:03 AM »

Here's my philosophy:

No compromise, no relationship.

It sounds like you're making sacrifices for her sake but she refuses to extend the same courtesy. If she doesn't think you're worth making compromises, she isn't worth your time. Period.
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« Reply #28 on: May 16, 2011, 06:02:02 AM »

Don't get married, it'll probably enhance those problems and it would be hard to undo.
If she loves something else like you love games, compromise and talk about solving those trust and control issues.
Try taking something she loves away and maybe she'll notice that she did it to you, like a wake up call.
And if that fails, leave immediately.
Note that I'm anti-social and have only really had friends online, so that was just from observation of people around me and online.
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« Reply #29 on: May 16, 2011, 06:15:50 AM »

I missed the part where you said you've been dating four months and are talking about marriage.

Jesus Christ, get out now, while you can. As other people have said, if she won't compromise, and you become miserable when you're married, it will be that much harder to get out.
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